Having Your Cake and Eating It Too

I suppose there is no such thing as being able to have your Cake and eat it too. Actually now that I think about it, what does that phrase actually mean? If you have cake, you’re going to eat it. Really, think about it. The  whole point of having your cake is to eat it. What is there preventing you from eating this cake? Nothing. Clearly this cake was intended for you to partake in, eat, & enjoy. Typically cake is present at celebrations, this is usually indicative of achieving an accomplishment, reaching a milestone, or in some cases ending something- retiring from a job or moving on to a new home or state.

In reality, if you’re getting cake then you had best eat it. You worked for it, you earned it, and in the grand scheme of things you deserve it. Cake represents victory, triumph, success, accolades, and perseverance. Cake is a sweet treat. It isn’t something (most of us) have everyday, so when the opportunity arises that cake is served we need to indulge and be in the moment.

Some of the ideals of today are intended to make people feel as though cake should just be  given to everybody regardless of their work ethic, contributions, or patience. There are those that would argue that cake should be shared with people who had no bearing on one’s success, lent no support, or is far removed from the situations surrounding the cake. This is an ideal I disagree with. Not everyone gets cake. Not everyone accomplishes something that is worthy of a cake filled event. There are people, sadly, who will never know the satisfaction of getting a cake they strived for and overcame challenges to receive. Some proponents would say that it isn’t fair for some people to not get cake. The only way I agree with this statement is when somebody has worked for their cake, yet they go unrecognized and not properly celebrated. They don’t get the cake they so rightfully earned.

For all of you out there working, sacrificing, and studying in order to have your cake and eat it too, more power to you. Keep moving forward, keep pressing on, and never let anyone make you feel guilty when that cake is finally yours. In fact, have two pieces if you can because you never know when you’ll be able to savor another cake worthy occasion again.



Daily Prompt: Cheat


I suppose this is a good way to get a little more creative with my writing. So here it goes…

According to Merriam-Webster cheat is a verb meaning:

  • to break a rule or law usually to gain an advantage at something
  • to take something from (someone) by lying or breaking a rule
  • to prevent (someone) from having something that he or she deserves or was expecting to get

In life we can all think of some situation where this word would be an apt description of how things played out or how we felt about the end result. Often times this word can have a negative connotation to it but I can see it in a much more positive light when put in the right context.

The third definition could also be used in a situation where grace is being extended.

  • b :  a virtue coming from God
  • c :  a state of sanctification enjoyed through divine grace
  • d : disposition to or an act or instance of kindness, courtesy, or clemency
  • e :  a temporary exemption
  • unmerited divine assistance given humans for their regeneration or sanctification

When you look at this definition, especially “a temporary exemption” is being made, cheat can become a pretty positive thing. Speaking in terms of faith and religion, God cheats people all the time. He withholds what people deserve & expect. Instead being cheated though, God offers grace to all who seek Him.

People are born into a state of sin and without the sacrifice of Jesus Christ all people on this earth would get exactly what they deserve and what most would expect: punishment and condemnation. However, through grace people are not given these things. Even better, grace from God is not a temporary exemption but rather eternal and whole. In terms of salvation, I’m glad we are cheated out of what we deserve and should expect as a result of living sinfully.

Grace or being cheated can be extended to life circumstances as well. Maybe a person doesn’t get the promotion they were hoping or expecting, perhaps accolades are withheld when they are truly deserved, or maybe you were expecting to make your flight. At the initial occurrence of being cheated out of these things, it would be easy to feel upset or let down and disappointed. But what if these instances of being cheated turned out to be acts of grace?

The person who got the promotion got caught up in bad inside business with the company and lost their job, or went to jail. By not receiving the accolades someone works harder and pushes themselves beyond what they previously had done to achieve results that are one hundred times better than before, leading to a lifetime of change in society in someway. Because that person missed that flight they also avoided a disastrous plane crash and went on to live a full, and happy life.

Being cheated or a cheat in some way doesn’t necessarily mean that life is altered for the worse. Hindsight would say to see it as grace and being spared some sort of result. Grace says withholds things that may be deserved out of love and spares people from pain that may not have been expected.

Perspective is everything. Cheated, grace- no matter how you call it, there are times it’s exactly what we need.